Weekly Love Question: Does Responsibility Ever Trump Self-Love?

Hey Stars! Last week I introduced a new segment where I take one of your questions about love an relationships each week and answer them here on the blog. I want to thank all of you who sent in questions! Today the one I’m answering is about self-love and it’s a good one. 

Nun ya Business (lol) asks: does responsibility ever trump self love and self-care? 

To that I propose a short answer which is no. Responsibility cannot trump self care or self love because they are not separate from one another. They are one in the same.

To go further into this, we can pose questions like: how do I practice self-love and self-care responsibly? How do I make self-love and self-care a priority without neglecting other responsibilities? These are wonderful questions to meditate on this week. 

As we approach a full moon on Friday, it is a time to think about the things we need to release. Such as limiting beliefs that suggest self-love and self-care have to exist outside of responsibility, even if it seems that way to you presently. For example, let’s say you have a job that you utilize to take care of your worldly responsibilities. But this job is constantly infringing on your ability to love and care for yourself. You probably are viewing this situation as love of self vs job that facilitates me taking care of my responsibilities. In reality, it’s about shifting the way you are thinking about this situation. Instead of focusing upon what this job doesn’t allow you to do, focus on what IS within your power to do and intentionally maximize on that as much as possible. Even if it’s just ten minutes each day, reading or listening to things that uplift you, viewing things you enjoy, making the choice not to say yes when you really want to say no. Doing these things consistently & being as present as possible while you do them in order to create more opportunities to love and care for yourself IS your responsibility, as much as paying your bills is. Think of it as a emotional wellnes maintance fee you owe to yourself. Make it mandatory that you pay that fee to yourself. And be as serious about paying it as you are about paying any other bill. It’s your responsibility to pay it, even though there is no one external reminding you to do so. Set daily reminders on your phone. Send yourself emails or even physical letters to remind yourself that this is something you have to make time for, one way or another. It may not look the same or feel the same every time. But it is up to YOU to make the most of what you have in order to pay this wellness fee. 

This Friday on the full moon, you can release the way of thinking that says you must choose between your responsibilities and your wellness.  If this resonates when you, I encourage you to create intentions that surround this topic for the full moon. And take it a step further, set/send yourself reminders to prioritize this. Don’t depend on the moon and the universe to do all the work. If you don’t show up to do your partner, no one else will 🙂

I hope this post found you all well. 

Peace & Love

Mila ❤


One thought on “Weekly Love Question: Does Responsibility Ever Trump Self-Love?

  1. Thank you! This is wonderful and also challenging. I appreciate you elevating it beyond the first idea of which one comes first or is better? I’ve been struggling to put my feelings into line with all my new beliefs and my old responsibilities. Great starting point!


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