Ladies How Y’all Feel?
“How do you feel about what happened between ya’ll?”, I asked a certain someone who was discussing her most recent encounter with a guy she liked. To make a long story short, she had met a guy and she was feeling him. These feelings made her anxious. She was excited & afraid. She was hopeful, but didn’t want to get her hopes up too high in case this man & this situation ended up disappointing her. “I don’t know”, she said. “I guess…” She started to tell me, but wound up talking in circles. I was still able to decode the message & get to the heart of the matter: which is the part that matters most. I listened to her until she was done speaking. “So what do you think?” she asked. I answered her. But I didn’t tell her what I thought. I told her what I felt.
I felt she was judging herself too harshly for simply having feelings. That she acted on her feelings in a way that made her uncomfortable mainly because she was uncomfortable with even having these feelings. And that it sounded like she had gotten attached to a certain outcome before giving herself a chance to explore the possibilities, if only within her mind. I could tell she she had been listening to me intently. She took in all of what I said and agreed. She shared more about why she was uncomfortable with her feelings and went on to talk about what she wanted to see come out of this relationship. She agreed with me once again, telling me that what I had told her was “exactly what it was”. She had found that middle ground in the midst of her feelings. She found balance. She no longer could say “I don’t know” or “I guess”. She knew. And knowing is half the battle.
As a highly sensitive person, my emotions and feelings have always been a big part of who I am. They are the internal guide that leads us to what we need to know. Yet often, we find our emotions confusing. I spent a lot of my life doing what most people do: either burying how I felt or sinking so deep into my feelings that I felt like I was drowning. When I started to understand that my feelings & sensitivity were a power & not a weakness, I was able to find balance. Maintaining that balance still takes practice, to this day. It’s not something that happens once and then always stays that way. But with the amount of practice I’ve put in & my commitment to it, I can say that I’ve gotten quite good at this balancing act.
Now I’ve helped several other people start to find that balance themselves. This practice with emotional clarity & balance is reflected in my relationships & my life overall. From the role I play in my romantic partner’s life, to how I interact with my peers & my family… It’s even reflected in how I make decisions in my personal life & my career.
I’m here to teach you how to maintain the balance and to support you as you put in the work to gain emotional clarity & successfully navigate relationships on your own.
Maybe you’re not clear on the way you’ve been feeling. Maybe you don’t know what you should do when it comes to navigating a relationship in your life. Mostly everyone has been where you are, but not everyone listens to that internal guidance system & seeks what they really need. But since you’re here reading this, I know you aren’t one of those people. And if you know that the way you feel matters and plays a huge part in living the life you want to live? You’re already so much further than you think.
I want to leave you with two question to think about before you leave this page and go about your day: How much better would your life be if you felt good or better most of the time? How much better would your life be if you knew how to navigate your relationships with ease & clarity?
If a life where your feelings help more than they hurt and the relationships flow with ease is something you’d be interested in, you should probably do yourself a favor and follow me…